I’m super good at obsessing about certain things I have precious little control over. Truly – it’s a real talent of mine. I can spend hours raging about greedy bankers (my husband has suggested I start a website called ‘rant at banks’ which will just be filled with my nightly diatribe during the evening news!) I can get wound up over politics, the environment, shocking inequality, banks (oh mentioned those already haven’t I?) – there’s a whole list.
But the problem is, I can’t change much about any of these things – so I continue with my rants born of frustration and feelings of helplessness.
I know that I’m far happier (not to mention my husband is too!) when I limit the energy I spend worrying and raging against things I don’t have that much influence over. Whilst I’d love to think if any of the world leaders actually met me I’d be able to convince them to listen to me (my tongue if very firmly in my cheek here,) I know that a) it’s unlikely I’d ever get the chance to and b) they’d probably not give two hoots what I think either.
When it all gets too much I remember to focus my energy on what I can influence and let go of the things I have little or no control over. Steve Maraboli is right, incrediable change can happen within me if I’m focused on what I can control. I also feel infinitely calmer, more centered and peaceful.
Oh and I find that limiting my nightly news viewing helps.
You can read more about Steven Covey’s Circle Of Concern and Influence here